The Healing Paradox

EP10 - Recognising Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

Ever find yourself thinking, “Here we go again…” as the same argument, rejection or emotional tension plays out in your relationships?
You’re not alone. And you’re not doing anything wrong.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore the emotional patterns that quietly shape how we show up with others. The loops we fall into. The roles we play. And how those old scripts keep playing out, until we learn to see them.
We’ll talk about:
Where these patterns come from (and why they once made sense)
How to start spotting the loops in your own relationships
A simple, powerful shift to begin changing the story
Because when you notice the pattern, you’re already beginning to change it.

EP 9 - Self-Sabotage In Healing

You’re doing the work. Trying to heal.
And yet… somehow, you keep getting in your own way.
 
This episode is about that.
The ways we sabotage our own healing - quietly, subtly, without even realising. 
Not because we don’t care, but because some part of us still feels safer holding back.
 
We talk about:
what self-sabotage actually is (and what it isn’t)
why we do it, even when we really want to heal
how to start noticing the hidden patterns
one gentle way to begin shifting those moments
 
You’ll leave with a little more compassion for yourself.
And maybe… a way to stop fighting yourself, and start partnering with your healing.

EP 8 - Healing Starts with You, Not Them

How often do we find ourselves waiting?
Waiting for someone to say sorry.
Waiting for things to change.
Waiting for a sign that it’s safe to move forward.
But what if healing doesn’t start with them at all?
What if it starts with you?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about what happens when you stop waiting for someone else to shift, and start turning that energy inward.
You’ll hear how this simple change in focus can bring more calm, more clarity, and a sense of freedom, even if nothing around you has changed.
Because your healing matters...
... and it doesn’t belong in anyone else’s hands.
🎧 Listen now and begin taking your next step, one breath at a time.

EP 7 - Understanding Emotional Triggers

Have you ever had a reaction that felt bigger than the moment? Like something small happened - but it hit something deep?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore the truth about emotional triggers - what they really are, where they come from, and how they can actually guide us toward healing. You'll learn to spot the patterns, breathe through the moments, and hear what your trigger is really trying to teach you.
Because your trigger isn’t a flaw - it’s a guide. Listen now and start making space … between the moment, and your response.

EP 6 - Releasing The Need For Validation

Do you find yourself overthinking how people respond to you, or spiralling into self-doubt when they don’t? That quiet need for validation can run deeper than we realise.
 
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how seeking approval keeps us disconnected from our truth and how letting go of that need creates space for real emotional freedom. You'll hear practical tools, powerful insights, and a gentle self-validation practice to bring you back to inner steadiness.
 
If you’re ready to stop chasing approval and start trusting yourself, this episode is for you.

EP 5 - Why Trying To Fix The Relationship Isn’t Working

When we care deeply about someone, it’s natural to want to fix what’s broken. But sometimes, the harder we try, the more stuck we feel - and the more distant the other person becomes.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the impulse to fix often backfires, and how letting go - gently, intentionally - can actually open space for a deeper kind of healing. You’ll hear the story of a mum who stopped trying to control the outcome and started healing her side of the story… and what happened when she did.
If you’re worn out from trying to hold it all together, this one’s for you.

EP 4 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves

We all carry stories about who we are - stories we didn’t even choose.
“I always mess things up.”“I’m too much.”“They’ll never forgive me.”
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how these old beliefs quietly shape our emotions, our behaviour, and our healing journey. You’ll learn how to spot the stories that keep you stuck, discover where they came from, and take the first gentle steps toward rewriting them.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re living on autopilot, or stuck in the same emotional loops - this one’s for you.

EP 3 - Breaking Free From Guilt And Shame

Have you ever found yourself replaying past mistakes - something you said in the heat of the moment, a decision you regret, or just not being the parent or partner you hoped you’d be?
Guilt and shame are incredibly common - but they’re also two of the most powerful blocks to healing.
In this episode, we explore the difference between guilt and shame (and why it matters), why we hold onto these emotions, even when they hurt, and a simple self-forgiveness practice you can start using today
If you’ve been carrying emotional weight for too long, this episode is for you.

EP 2 - The Hidden Blocks To Healing

You’re doing the work. You’re showing up. But somehow… nothing’s shifting. Sound familiar?
In this episode, we’re uncovering the hidden blocks that keep you stuck in emotional loops - despite your best efforts. Jez explores three of the most common patterns that quietly sabotage healing: the need for a certain outcome, unconscious beliefs, and trying to do it all alone.
If you’ve been feeling like something’s missing on your healing journey, this conversation might be the turning point.

EP 1 - What Is The Healing Paradox

What if healing doesn’t look the way you thought it would? In this first episode, Jez unpacks the core message behind The Healing Paradox - why healing often defies logic, what gets in the way, and how true transformation begins within. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things and still not getting the outcome you hoped for, this episode will help you see the process in a new light.