The Healing Paradox

EP20 - Visualisation & Emotional Reprogramming

What if your brain doesn’t know the difference between something real and something imagined?
Turns out, it often doesn’t. 
Which means we can train our emotional responses, not just by living through different situations, but by IMAGINING them.
This episode is about that. 
I’ll walk you through a short, gentle practice I’ve been using myself. 
Three minutes. 
No complicated explanations. 
Just a way to start rewiring old emotional habits.
If you’ve been feeling reactive, stuck, or just tired of repeating the same patterns, this might be a helpful way in.

EP19 - Creating A Safe Space For Connection

Ever feel like someone’s just... safe to be around?
You don’t have to pretend.You don’t have to explain. You just ARE.
That feeling doesn’t come from saying all the right things.
It comes from emotional safety, and in this episode, we’re exploring how to offer it.
You’ll hear:
Why safety, not strategy, is what opens people up
How presence creates trust
What unknowingly shuts people down
The small changes that make a big emotional difference
A simple reflection and a weekly practice to try
Because real connection doesn’t need to be in-your-face, fast or clever.
It just needs to feel safe.

EP18 - Parenting From A Place Of Peace

Ever found yourself snapping at your child, then feeling guilty moments later?
It’s happened to us all at some point, and you’re not a bad parent.
Often, it’s not the shoes, the mess, or the bedtime routine, it’s the fear underneath.
Fear of losing control, fear of failing, fear of not being enough.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how to move from fear to peace in your parenting - not by being perfect, but by learning to pause, anchor and reconnect with yourself.
You’ll hear:
Why fear often drives your reactions (and how to recognise it)
How peace isn’t passive, it’s actually deeply powerful
A simple grounding practice to help you reset in the moment
Why ‘repair’ is just as important as calm
Because peaceful parenting isn’t about getting it right every time.
It’s about coming back, with love, presence... instead of fear.

EP17 - Why Healing Takes Time (And That’s OK)

Have you ever felt like you're doing the work… but still not moving fast enough?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why healing is rarely linear, and often takes longer than our expectations. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still triggered, still tired, or still waiting to feel “done,” this conversation is for you.
Inside this episode:
Why healing is more spiral than straight line
What it means to honour your own internal pace
How growth can happen underground, even when nothing looks different
A gentle practice to reconnect with your body’s timing
Because sometimes the most healing thing you can do... is slow down.

EP16 - Changing Your Energy Changes Everything

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to fix something, the more strained it becomes?
You send the message.You show up.You try harder.

But nothing changes, and sometimes it even gets worse.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the energy behind your actions matters just as much as the actions themselves. 
You’ll learn how to shift from urgency and fear into calm, grounded presence, and why that one shift can be the catalyst for major change.
Inside, you’ll hear:
What happens when care becomes control
Why your nervous system speaks louder than your words
A story about bathroom cleaning that might surprise you
A practical reflection tool to shift your energy, even when nothing outside has changed
Because sometimes healing doesn’t start with doing more...

It starts with BEING differently.

EP15 - The Power Of Perspective Shifts

Conflict and disconnection are often seen as signs that something’s broken. But what if they’re invitations?
In this episode, we explore how your perspective on challenging moments can influence how you navigate them and why shifting your perspective is one of the most powerful tools for healing.
Learn how to move from frustration to curiosity

Discover the 3 key perspective shifts that change everything

Try a simple, daily journaling practice that builds compassion and insight
If you’ve ever felt stuck in emotional cycles or like you’re having the same painful conversations again and again, this episode will help you see things through new eyes.

EP14 – The Stories We Tell Ourselves - Part 3: Writing a New Story

You’ve noticed the old patterns.

You’ve questioned the beliefs you never chose.

Now comes the most powerful step of all...

CHOOSING what you WANT to believe instead.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about how to begin writing a new emotional story.

Not a perfect story all in one go.

Just starting, with curiosity and intention.
You’ll learn:
Why it’s hard to let go of the things that feel familiar, even when it hurts
The power of trying on a new story, one sentence at a time
A real-life example of what rewriting actually looks like
A simple practice to help you shift from an old belief to your new truth
Because healing isn’t just about what you leave behind.

It’s about what you choose to step into.

EP13 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Part 2: Where They Came From

Have you ever stopped to ask, Where did I even learn to think this way about myself?
The stories we carry, about worth, love, safety, success, they didn’t come out of nowhere.

They were passed down. Shaped. Absorbed.

From family. From culture. From moments you didn’t even realise were shaping you.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how those stories got written 
and why simply recognising where they came from can be the beginning of writing something new.
Because not everything you’ve been taught needs to be kept.

And not everything you’ve carried belongs to you.

EP12 - What Do You Actually Want?

When something feels broken, painful, or stuck, most of us react. We try to fix it, manage it, or escape it. But what if the most powerful shift begins with one honest question: What do I actually want?
In this episode, we explore why clarity is essential to healing, not so you can control everything, but so you can move with intention.
You’ll learn:
Why most of us struggle to name what we truly want
The difference between reacting to pain and creating from desire
A simple, practical way to uncover your healing vision
If you’ve been spinning in cycles of “what’s wrong,” maybe it’s time to reconnect with what’s possible.

EP11 – The Truth About Forgiveness

What if forgiveness wasn’t about saying it was okay, or letting someone off the hook?
What if it was about setting yourself free?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore what forgiveness really means - not as a performance, or a shortcut to healing - but as a quiet release of what you’ve been carrying.
You’ll hear:
Why forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing
How to know when holding on is costing you more than it's protecting
A gentle exercise to begin letting go, without pressure, and on your own terms
If you’ve ever felt conflicted about forgiveness, or wondered whether it’s even possible... this one’s for you.