The Healing Paradox

EP17 - Why Healing Takes Time (And That’s OK)

Have you ever felt like you're doing the work… but still not moving fast enough?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why healing is rarely linear, and often takes longer than our expectations. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still triggered, still tired, or still waiting to feel “done,” this conversation is for you.
Inside this episode:
Why healing is more spiral than straight line
What it means to honour your own internal pace
How growth can happen underground, even when nothing looks different
A gentle practice to reconnect with your body’s timing
Because sometimes the most healing thing you can do... is slow down.

EP16 - Changing Your Energy Changes Everything

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to fix something, the more strained it becomes?
You send the message.You show up.You try harder.

But nothing changes, and sometimes it even gets worse.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the energy behind your actions matters just as much as the actions themselves. 
You’ll learn how to shift from urgency and fear into calm, grounded presence, and why that one shift can be the catalyst for major change.
Inside, you’ll hear:
What happens when care becomes control
Why your nervous system speaks louder than your words
A story about bathroom cleaning that might surprise you
A practical reflection tool to shift your energy, even when nothing outside has changed
Because sometimes healing doesn’t start with doing more...

It starts with BEING differently.

EP15 - The Power Of Perspective Shifts

Conflict and disconnection are often seen as signs that something’s broken. But what if they’re invitations?
In this episode, we explore how your perspective on challenging moments can influence how you navigate them and why shifting your perspective is one of the most powerful tools for healing.
Learn how to move from frustration to curiosity

Discover the 3 key perspective shifts that change everything

Try a simple, daily journaling practice that builds compassion and insight
If you’ve ever felt stuck in emotional cycles or like you’re having the same painful conversations again and again, this episode will help you see things through new eyes.

EP14 – The Stories We Tell Ourselves - Part 3: Writing a New Story

You’ve noticed the old patterns.

You’ve questioned the beliefs you never chose.

Now comes the most powerful step of all...

CHOOSING what you WANT to believe instead.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about how to begin writing a new emotional story.

Not a perfect story all in one go.

Just starting, with curiosity and intention.
You’ll learn:
Why it’s hard to let go of the things that feel familiar, even when it hurts
The power of trying on a new story, one sentence at a time
A real-life example of what rewriting actually looks like
A simple practice to help you shift from an old belief to your new truth
Because healing isn’t just about what you leave behind.

It’s about what you choose to step into.

EP13 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves – Part 2: Where They Came From

Have you ever stopped to ask, Where did I even learn to think this way about myself?
The stories we carry, about worth, love, safety, success, they didn’t come out of nowhere.

They were passed down. Shaped. Absorbed.

From family. From culture. From moments you didn’t even realise were shaping you.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how those stories got written 
and why simply recognising where they came from can be the beginning of writing something new.
Because not everything you’ve been taught needs to be kept.

And not everything you’ve carried belongs to you.

EP12 - What Do You Actually Want?

When something feels broken, painful, or stuck, most of us react. We try to fix it, manage it, or escape it. But what if the most powerful shift begins with one honest question: What do I actually want?
In this episode, we explore why clarity is essential to healing, not so you can control everything, but so you can move with intention.
You’ll learn:
Why most of us struggle to name what we truly want
The difference between reacting to pain and creating from desire
A simple, practical way to uncover your healing vision
If you’ve been spinning in cycles of “what’s wrong,” maybe it’s time to reconnect with what’s possible.

EP11 – The Truth About Forgiveness

What if forgiveness wasn’t about saying it was okay, or letting someone off the hook?
What if it was about setting yourself free?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore what forgiveness really means - not as a performance, or a shortcut to healing - but as a quiet release of what you’ve been carrying.
You’ll hear:
Why forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing
How to know when holding on is costing you more than it's protecting
A gentle exercise to begin letting go, without pressure, and on your own terms
If you’ve ever felt conflicted about forgiveness, or wondered whether it’s even possible... this one’s for you.

EP10 - Recognising Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

Ever find yourself thinking, “Here we go again…” as the same argument, rejection or emotional tension plays out in your relationships?
You’re not alone. And you’re not doing anything wrong.
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore the emotional patterns that quietly shape how we show up with others. The loops we fall into. The roles we play. And how those old scripts keep playing out, until we learn to see them.
We’ll talk about:
Where these patterns come from (and why they once made sense)
How to start spotting the loops in your own relationships
A simple, powerful shift to begin changing the story
Because when you notice the pattern, you’re already beginning to change it.

EP 9 - Self-Sabotage In Healing

You’re doing the work. Trying to heal.
And yet… somehow, you keep getting in your own way.
 
This episode is about that.
The ways we sabotage our own healing - quietly, subtly, without even realising. 
Not because we don’t care, but because some part of us still feels safer holding back.
 
We talk about:
what self-sabotage actually is (and what it isn’t)
why we do it, even when we really want to heal
how to start noticing the hidden patterns
one gentle way to begin shifting those moments
 
You’ll leave with a little more compassion for yourself.
And maybe… a way to stop fighting yourself, and start partnering with your healing.

EP 8 - Healing Starts with You, Not Them

How often do we find ourselves waiting?
Waiting for someone to say sorry.
Waiting for things to change.
Waiting for a sign that it’s safe to move forward.
But what if healing doesn’t start with them at all?
What if it starts with you?
In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about what happens when you stop waiting for someone else to shift, and start turning that energy inward.
You’ll hear how this simple change in focus can bring more calm, more clarity, and a sense of freedom, even if nothing around you has changed.
Because your healing matters...
... and it doesn’t belong in anyone else’s hands.
🎧 Listen now and begin taking your next step, one breath at a time.